The first thing that needs to be said to any LGBTQ
individual in our churches is “Jesus loves you and we love you. We want you to be an active part of this
church community. We believe that you
need a relationship with Jesus, and that Jesus is reaching out to you. God is not going to send you (or anyone) to
hell just because of your (or their) sexuality.
And I’m sorry for over a thousand years of oppression and abuse in the
church.” We need to keep saying that
even though it sounds trite. If those
words are not deeply heard, 24-7, in and out of the presence of our homosexual
brothers and sisters, even when we’re joking, then we have failed before we
have begun. I know because there are
friendships I have lost over this before I began the conversation. And it was my fault.[1] Even if we disagree on everything else, those
words should still be true (based on any legitimate interpretation of scripture
that I know of). They should come out at
the beginning of the conversation and it must be the foundation for any further
discussion.
It may be inevitable that the issue of homosexuality be used
as a battleground on which we argue other issues including Scriptural authority
and the role of sexuality in defining our identity. While we must uphold Scriptural authority and
uncover the destructive myth of redemptive romance, we must not allow those
discussions to get in the way of caring about the individuals in our
communities whose lives are most closely affected by these discussions.
What is the rest of the discussion? As many people have pointed out (most
recently Steve Chalke[2])
the main Christian response to homosexuality in our churches has historically
been to recommend celibacy. This is not
the only response that Evangelicals promote.
But with “reparative” therapies taking some (perhaps much deserved) flak
lately, recommending celibacy has resurfaced as one of the main suggestions for
the spiritual formation of homosexuals in our communities. We have a long tradition of recommending
celibacy to homosexuals (going back, at least, to Clement of Alexandria[3])
but lately people have begun to feel uncomfortable with recommending celibacy.
As though it is a cruel or unusual request to make. Though I am probably
somewhere pretty close to a zero on the Kinsey scale, as someone who is
actually celibate I feel that I might have a unique perspective to contribute
to this discussion.
In my last post I defined the heart of our Evangelical
movement as total submission to our best interpretation of Scripture. What makes an Evangelical view of
homosexuality particularly tricky is that there are really only three New
Testament verses that seem to relate directly to the issue. However, all three seem to advise against
homosexual actions (though they do not condemn homosexual attraction).[4] Some people (like Chalke) maintain that the
Bible could not be referring to committed monogamous homosexual relationships
since the writers of the Bible could not have been aware of the existence of
such relationships. I disagree with that
belief on a fundamental level since it is based on the ridiculous implication
that committed, monogamous, homosexual relationships are a twentieth century
innovation. There are many stories in
Greek and Roman literature of non-abusive, long-term homosexual relationships,
particularly among soldiers; Achilles and Patroclus in The Iliad are a great example.[5] I find it hard to believe that a
well-educated, well-traveled, first century Roman citizen like Paul would not
have heard of The Iliad. Others contend that Paul was referring to
homosexual rape that was apparently practiced as a way to dehumanize prisoners
in the ancient world. While such a
practice seems worthy of condemnation, I think that Paul would have clarified
his language (given that homosexuality was fairly common) if that was his
intent. Unless of course analysis of
other ancient texts proved that the Greek word arsenokoitēs (the word that refers to homosexuality in the New
Testament) was actually a shorthand
commonly used in the ancient world refer to people performing this specific
type of rape. As far as I know, this
evidence does not exist. Nonetheless,
while these arguments do not convince me, I do not maintain that people are
stupid or ignorant if they are convinced by these arguments, or some variation
thereof. In fact many people who are
smarter than I am, and whose walk with Jesus (I believe) is genuine, do believe
some variation of them. After all, we
are really arguing over the interpretation of only a few words in three passages
in the New Testament.
The thing that I find most disturbing is that when I present
the idea that the Bible is probably calling people with homosexual desires not
to act on those desires, and to commit to a life of celibacy, it is generally
looked upon as unfeeling or cruel. This discomfort really has nothing to do with
caring for homosexuals. It is based
completely on a belief in the myth of redemptive romance (to get a
better understanding of what I mean by the term “redemptive romance,” read my
first post). For those who have not read
my previous posts (or who have forgotten) what I call the myth of redemptive
romance is the belief that a romantic relationship could give life fulfillment. It is the idea that our broken lives (which
are out of sync with each other, with ourselves, and with creation) would be
made happy, meaningful, and productive through a romantic (and usually, but not
always, sexual) relationship. Of course,
if the ultimate fulfillment of human life is found in a romantic relationship,
then celibacy really is cruel. If it is
true, we must absolutely strive to find interpretations of Scripture that would
allow for homosexuals to also experience romance. Celibacy may be an acceptable decision for
some rare, bizarre and misguided individuals who are uniquely gifted by God to
live in perpetual frustration as a way to escape the world and follow God. Since homosexual attraction is not a choice,
God would have to be cruel to require such extreme asceticism of everyone who
experienced it.[6] However, if we reject the myth of redemptive
romance, and accept the reality that the life of a celibate person can be very
full, it puts this recommendation in perspective. I believe that the main impetus behind most (not
all) people who support gay marriage in the church has very little to do with
compassion and love for homosexuals and much more to do with a false belief in
redemptive romance. We Christians must
resoundingly reject this line of thinking.
Our claim is that the ultimate fulfillment of human life is not found in
any romantic relationship, but in a reconciled relationship with God. We work with Jesus to try and reconcile or
restore creation to the way it was meant to be.
We are happiest and our lives are fullest when we are engaged in
experiencing and expanding the Kingdom of God.
Human romance, homosexual or heterosexual, is not a central part of this
experience.
Consequently, redemptive romance really
is a false hope in our society, and yet it is one of the most widely accepted
myths. Once we have rejected any false
worship of romance, we can see celibacy not as cruel asceticism, but as a
healthy life choice that, though difficult, is no more difficult than
monogamy. Furthermore, it has proven to
be a healthy response to homosexual attraction for nearly two thousand
years. One famous example of this is the
poet Gerard Manley Hopkins. As a young
man, Hopkins engaged sexually with other young men. However, when he approached the church with a
desire to follow God, the church welcomed him and encouraged him to devote his
life to serving others as a (celibate) member of the Jesuit order. That is what he did. Then, while living and working among the poor
in England and Ireland, he used his desire to glorify God (and I imagine, his
unique perspective as a homosexual) as inspiration for his poetry. He wrote poems that later became some of the
most influential for poets of the twentieth century, especially T.S.
Elliot. He lived as a celibate single
person in a larger, ongoing Jesuit story.
And from that vantage point, he changed the world.
However, this is only the first question in a larger
conversation. It is where I stand on
this controversial issue, and though it is not exact, I believe that it is
pretty close to the position that the Evangelical Friends have taken as a
movement. This leads to the obvious
question of what we should do with people who disagree with us on this
interpretation. There is a temptation right
now for us to use this as something of a litmus test for inclusion in the
community (if you agree, then you are includable). On the one hand, even someone who might
engage in a wildly promiscuous lifestyle is welcome to attend our churches. But
what if someone wants to become a member, or a volunteer, or a teacher, or a
recorded minister? The room for
inclusion gets narrow pretty quickly.
I’m not saying that we should not exclude people from certain levels of
ministry in the movement. If they disagree
with us on core issues, we should encourage them towards other movements that
might fit their beliefs more closely. A
big part of what defines us is our emphasis on the authority of Scripture, and
to a lesser extent, how we interpret certain passages and themes in
Scripture. However, it does seem to me
like this emphasis on a proper interpretation of these three verses has been
blown out of proportion.
Take, for example, a much more central theme in
Scripture: Jesus tells us that we should
love our enemies (Matt 5:44, Luke 6:27 and 35).
He encourages us to find creative non-violent solutions to problems,
even violent problems (Matthew 5). After
he told his disciples they should have swords and be prepared (Luke 22:36), he
told his disciples not to use them against people (Luke 22:51) and that people
who live by the sword, die by the sword (Matthew 26:52). He demonstrated a victory through dying (1
Corinthians 15:54 and 5), and even while he was dying, he asked God to forgive
his enemies (Luke 23:34). He encouraged
his followers to also be ready to take up their cross and follow in his
footsteps (Matthew 10:38). This seems to
have caught on. In one place Paul
assures us that our fight is not against flesh and blood (Ephesians 6:12),
another time he tells us to bless those who persecute us (Romans 12:14). This is a huge theme in Scripture with many
more than three verses that we have to interpret. The Friends tradition (and the tradition of
the early church) included that we encourage people not to serve in the
military of any government. I think that
the Bible is pretty clear in affirming us on this issue. While I am about 70% sure that I’m
interpreting the three verses that relate to homosexuality correctly, I’m about
90% sure that I’m interpreting the many verses that relate to military service
correctly.
And yet, we have many people in our churches who are or have
been soldiers, and who actively support the US military. There is generally no restriction on them
when they want to volunteer or teach. In
fact, we have even allowed a few people to be recorded ministers in our
movement when they interpret these passages differently. In general, people have interpreted these
verses so that they do not apply when a person is a part of organized violence
between governments, just as others say the admonitions against homosexual
activity do not apply in the context of committed, monogamous unions.
As I wrote in the last post, the most significant time when
we may really need to recommend that a volunteer or staff leader join a
different movement is when they simply dismiss the authority of Scripture on
the subject. This includes people who
choose to ignore the verses on homosexuality instead of engage and submit to
them as well as the people who simply believe that Jesus did not really intend
for us to love our enemies and turn the other cheek when our families or our
country is being threatened. On the
other hand, if people desire to submit completely to Scripture but have a
different interpretation of those verses, I would rather have them with us.[7]
We should be actively working against the effects of the
myth of redemptive romance in our churches.
I believe that should recommend celibacy for homosexuals in our
communities. We should treat homosexuals
(and heterosexuals for that matter) who want to follow the risen Jesus and who
have a high view of the authority of Scripture, but disagree with us on
interpretation, the same way we treat soldiers at our churches. We should continue to engage homosexuals and
soldiers in dialogue as they continue to grow in submission to God, continuing
to challenge their interpretation, and continuing to allow their interpretation
to challenge ours.
[1]
Ok, just one friendship that I know of.
But it was a pretty good friend, and I miss him. And it really was my fault.
[2]
http://www.oasisuk.org/inclusionresources/Articles/MOIabridged
[3] James B. DeYoung, Homosexuality: Contemporary Claims Examined
in Light of the Bible and Other Ancient Literature and Law (Grand Rapids:
Kregel Academic, 2000) 333.
[4] The three passages are
Romans 1:26-7, 1 Corinthians 6:9, and 1 Timothy 1:10. I am not a Greek Scholar, but I have read
that fact that the word arsenokoitēs (which
is the word that refers to homosexuality) ends in koitēs implies physical action in the Greek. So whatever it is that these passages are
against, it cannot be saying that homosexual attraction is wrong. Paul does claim in Romans that the attraction
is unnatural, or a result of sin upon the created order. However, if you read the passage carefully,
it is the action of men having sex with men that he is actually against. Even in the Romans 1 passage, which is the
hardest on homosexuality, the attraction they feel seems to be a consequence of
sin in the natural order not a sinful action on their part (in fact, the only
action noted in the only verse that relates directly to men being attracted to
men is that they choose not to have sex with women, something Paul applauds in
different circumstances).
[5] While some scholars
maintain that this is intended to be the Platonic ideal for male friendships,
most scholars agree that Achilles and Patroclus represent an ancient example of
a consensual gay couple. Even if this
specific example does not apply, the prevalence of gay relationships in the
Greek and Roman world is well documented.
Check out Wayne R. Dynes and Stephen Donaldson, Homosexuality in the Ancient World (New York: Taylor and Francis,
1992).
[6] For the record, I think
it’s pretty clear that no one chooses their sexual orientation. I have never heard any evidence to the
contrary. I’m not sure if this is
relevant to the discussion at all, but I imagine it would be really hurtful if
someone accused me of choosing my sexual orientation (especially if my
orientation were not the norm).
[7]
Ok, I admit, there are some interpretations that are pretty destructive and we
might do well to show a little healthy fear. A few days ago I overheard a woman in a
wealthy community talking about how it says in Corinthians that if people don’t
work they shouldn’t eat, and all of our homeless ministries are just enabling
stupid and evil people. I came close to
stopping her and saying, “First, that’s in 2 Theselonians not in the Corinthian
books. And second, it is written in
reference to people who are mooching off the community as they wait for the
second coming of Christ. It cannot be
applied to homeless ministry. On the
other hand, have you ever read about the cows of Bashan?” What I actually did say (in the words of Mike
Birbiglia) was nothing (which was probably a mistake). Still, that woman should not be allowed to
lead in any church anywhere.
Another article that reminded me of this was a recent one I read by Peter Enns about Tim Keller's comment of late on Evangelicals, views of Scripture and homosexuality:
ReplyDeletehttp://www.patheos.com/blogs/peterenns/2013/04/tim-keller-on-homosexuality-and-biblical-authority-different-crisis-same-problem/
Hopefully this can further the conversation.
Thanks for posting this Jen. It is a really good article on the whole and makes an interesting point, though it misunderstands evangelical spirituality on a fundamental level. Enns writes that “[This is] the entire problem evangelicals face when confronted with any issue that runs counter to evangelical theology: ‘You’re asking me to read my Bible differently than my tradition has prescribed, and so I can’t go there. If I do, my faith is kicked out the door.’” Recent history has shown us that Evangelicals as a group tend to be very open to changing their theology if they can be convinced that that their previous understanding of Scripture was incorrect. Enns uses the example of Evolution. Most (at least many if not most) evangelicals nowadays accept that the Bible is at least open to the idea of evolution. For some this came through the many discussions on the Hebrew word “yom.” For others it came through the realization that the form of the first few chapters of Gensis were written in a poetic form which did not require them to be taken as historical. Most evangelicals became open to the theory of Evolution by trying to understand and submit to Scripture better (the bottom line for Evangelicalism). Enns also writes that “To ask evangelicals to do a critical self-assessment of how they read the Bible is in effect to ask them to assess the entire system.” If when he write “how they read the Bible,” he means “as submitting to an authority” then of course he is right. Although it is really only as helpful as saying asking us to assess the entire system asks us to assess the entire system. It is wrong to assume that we are not willing to, or do not do this regularly. The reality is that we do assess the system regularly and repeatedly find this submission to scripture to be an essential part of our own spiritual formation.
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